The Art of Open Sensuality Page #18

Stamina

Making the connection:
One of the more frustrating aspects for us has been the fact that people are so flighty. You say one wrong thing, and they are history, and not a word as to why. It is not like your primary relationship; where you have to work through your issues, big and small. Try not be more like that with other couples. Do not blow them off at the drop of a hat. Try to be honest with them if things are not panning for you. Maybe there was a simple misunderstanding that you could work out? But if they do not know what is bothering you, there is no chance for a resolution.

If you manage to make it this far it is a small miracle. Then trying to set a time to meet where both women are not PMSing or menstruating is another hurdle.

This lifestyle will not be easy to try out and stick with. We are all human and have our flaws. You will not meet people that will make no mistakes, unless they are not being very real with you and have been doing this so long that they know all the right things to say and do. You cannot change other couples from being flakes, but you can try yourself to be better than all that, and set a good example. If you are not able to learn to stick it out with any couples, you will not see much pan out for you. They may appreciate the effort you put into this in working through these glitches. And Hell, you just might get lucky enough to develop a life long friendship, even if it does not to continue as an intimate relationship.

Keeping the connection going:
Unless both men are very virile pile drivers (very rare); another issue of stamina you will run into is male performance. This is not an issue you will hear much about in the lifestyle, but it is a very common issue. Whether or not you can perform, you will have little to no control with the other male being too small or not able to perform. They are not likely to share this info with you before the clothes are off. Even then they may lie about it. Without the little blue pill many men will find it hard to get erect because of nervousness, the unfamiliar situation, worries, and visual distractions. Very few men could be a porn star.

Many encounters will end abruptly after the real fun begins. If you can get past this hurdle, there is the common issue of premature ejaculation, leading again to a lack of erection. You may be waiting to see that your wife is getting into it, and then find out it is over before you had a chance to get your condom on (no joke). In many encounter you will find that your only option is to be a 'Softswinger'.

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