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What Are Some Common
Disadvantages To This Alternative Lifestyle?
Your choice to participate in this can be very costly
beyond the issues mentioned above:
(a) Lots of wasted time trying to find a suitable
match. Sometimes a hundred hours or more on just one attempted
connection.
(b) Lots of rejection without any explanation, or the
chance to solve a possible misunderstanding. If you say one wrong
thing, communication often simply evaporates.
(c) Many moments of
hurt feelings between the two of you, that needs to be resolved before
your next attempted encounter.
(d) If you get lucky, there is the
fear of disease spreading.
(e) During the encounter, constant nervousness,
waiting for the other shoe to drop, so it is nearly impossible to really
relax and just have a good time.
(f) Impotency or the female equivalence
is a very common problem, even if you are not normally prone to this
issue. Excessively aggressive behavior of others, apparent lack
of interest of others, nerves, and distractions will add a substantial
difficulty to your performance or interest.
(g) The other couple
may lie about a multitude of relevant issues in order to score, and
there for you may pay a heavy price later on.
(h) The other couple
may not respect your boundaries, knowing it is really hard to stop thing
once things get going and heated.
(i) More unexplained rejection
after the fact, when you had thought you four made a real positive connection.
(j) The multitude of emotional scars you may suffer going down this
road.
There may be more, but I trust that you get the point
here. If you have these kind of experiences and can think of more
disadvantages, or advantages for this web site, feel free to
e-mail us to share your thoughts.
We are not just working to turn people off to this alternative, but
if it is not too late, you certainly need to evaluate if these costs
and risks are worth the advantages. We can only hope that these
pages might help you with your life's choices. We know that we
cannot save you, and you do need to follow what ever your life path
is.
Everyone in Portland
should own a raincoat
Here is a very well written statement about the use
of condoms by a woman who should know this issue better than most; a
long time prostitute who has run an on-line service for providers for
several years:
 Legend
has it that condoms take away from an experience. Some people say they
are impersonal or ruin the moment. Well, I don’t believe that is true
at all.
Think about this with me. You meet a provider at the door.
She is wearing something that is just enough to make your eyes wander
her body, cleavage to dive into and a warm and inviting smile. A drink,
a little conversation and some flirting. Maybe a little footsie and
fondling and off you go to her private space to introduce your more
personal parts to each other. The clothes begin making their way to
new temporary homes on the floor or end of the bed. Breathing becomes
heavier and sensations begin to swirl all around you both. She nudges
you down onto her bed, nibbling on your lower lip and neck. She begins
rubbing her parts on your parts and slowly she slips a raincoat on around
your manhood.
Now, before you start thinking, here we go again, consider
this for a moment:
She has just said without speaking a word, “I
care about you, your health, your well being and our time together.
I respect that you have a life outside of this small amount of time
we have and I want the time we are together to be as carefree and wonderfully
sexual as possible with no regrets.”
She has just expressed that
you are literally the most important thing to her right this very moment.
Can you get any better than that? I don’t think so!
She proceeds
to slip her mouth around you and the hour or two slips away through
erotic and sensual bliss. You leave, having had a tongue tingling goodbye
kiss planted firmly on your lips with a sweet whisper of hope you will
return soon, walking on the clouds and wondering if you can actually
perform your future life duties for the rest of the day without cracking
a smile or allowing your mind to continually wander back to your time
with her.
By her playing safe, she did not take anything away from
you, she added to the experience by acknowledging that your well being
and safety is important to her. There is nothing impersonal about it,
considering that in the real world only long standing couples who are
bestowed to each other go without protection and you know you do not
want that responsibility for her in your life. She has given you permission
to be the naughty, yummy and sexually free person you desired to be
with her. It didn’t ruin the moment because honestly, you barely felt
her put it on. She was much too busy getting to the good stuff rather
than explain in 5 languages why you need one of those.
Most reflection
of sexual and sensual fantasy is in the mind. If you stimulate that
part of the brain, your body is there with or without a condom and better
to be safe than sorry any day.
Any man who respects my safety and
cares enough for me to honor my body with being a safe player is a turn
on. He will get a hundred percent of me every time he is with me. He
will get the best I have to give and the respect that only he can draw
from me because of his concern for me. He will leave knowing the naughty
me and I will watch him go with thoughts of our next encounter to come.
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