"The Art of Open Sensuality"

A modern guide to careful
exploration of One's expanding
sexuality and sensuality
page #11 of 30

Written by: David & Tia
from October 2000 to February 2005

Emotions

There is always the emotional impact that will be very challenging, to say the least.  The very mention of emotions though should not be taken negatively.  Emotions encompass positive and negative.   It has been a wild roller-coaster ride of emotions for the two of us, and if it is not causing issues between the two of you, we suspect you may not be facing these issues.  They are likely to blow up in your face eventually.  We feel it's best to deal with them at the time, before they pile up to an unmanageable proportion.

There are many a couple that thinks this is 'just sex'.  They feel there is no need to mix feelings with carnal pleasures.  We feel this is naive, and even if it is true that they can separate the two so clearly, and keep them separate, they do have other people's feelings to consider.  Those who may not so easily be able to separate their emotions out of this, and also keep these emotions out?

Another pitfall of this, is the emotional wave that we feel just before a planned encounter.  The anxiety and stress will often have us at odds.  It is caused from being nervous, excited, the fear of being rejected, the fear of the unknown, and much more.  It is not easy, but you will need to ride this wave through.  Try your best to be patient and understanding with each other. Perhaps just state that it is nerves and thus don't hold anything against the other. It probably is not a good time for serious discussions about the lifestyle or what your partner desires even. Keep it light for those moments. Try to remember that no matter what they are expressing, they are very likely having difficulty handling the pressure and stress coming up with this new possible encounter.  These feelings are normal, and will manifest in many different ways.