The Art of Opening Sensuality Page #5

What is Soft-Swinging?

The term Soft Swinging has been coined (not by us) to reflect the idea of stepping beyond the scope of the conventional ideals of a monogamous relationship 'with' your mates knowledge and consent, in a hopefully smarter and safer manner. This is done with a loving respect for each other’s needs, desires, and comfort levels. Honoring your partner with complete truth and cooperation. Exploring your sexuality, without the need to take the risks of having intercourse with strangers, which can cost the two of you gravely, emotionally as well as physically. These labels and terms are only for purpose of putting a name to something you are trying on for size to see how it fits. It most definitely does not define who and what you are as people. It is a easier way to communicate to others who may have the same potential interests, or may not for that matter, and allows an easier ability to communicate about a subject most are not sure how to talk about.

To break the label Soft swing into more specific labels:

· Soft-swinging varies from simple nudism, to same room-sex, depending on your comfort levels. There may be a friendship of connection with these people or you may not.

· Contact Soft-swinging is any type of foreplay with others, from a simple back rub to oral sex. The primary boundary being no intercourse with other people than your mate. Again there may be a friendship of connection with these people or there may not.

What is Soft-Polyamory?

Polyamory means "many loves". This term, as opposed to the term swinging, refers to the need to feel a connection and some form of commitment and or connection prior to any physical intimacy is shared. The main importance is in developing a meaningful friendship with others, that can if desired move beyond platonic. Initially, it is more complicated, but can makes it easier to continue to have intimate encounters with these other people in the future. This sidesteps a lot of the tedious courtship effort you will have with any new people. If things gel for a prolonged time, this relationship may evolve into a Poly-fidelitous relationship, Where you and another couple essentially form a marriage of sorts between the 4 of you being Monogamous to each other. This may allow the two couples to move the intimacy into a deeper level with each other allowing a safer venue for sexual intimacy outside your primary relationship