"The Art of Open Sensuality"

A modern guide to careful
exploration of One's expanding
sexuality and sensuality
page #3 of 30

Written by: David & Tia
from October 2000 to February 2005

Warning!
[this web site contains sexual content)

 

Questions:

  • Do you have a positive and vibrant sex life with your mate?  Has this allowed you the comfort level with each other to talk openly and discuss your deepest fantasies?  Even fantasies that clearly step beyond the ideals of monogamy?  Most all of us have them.
  • Have the two of you enjoyed going out to nude beaches to be around other friendly, open minded and sensual people?
  • Would you like to be able to relax and chat with other couples about almost any topic openly without the fear of condemnation or rejection? 
  • Would the two of you like to be able to dirty dance in public?  Perhaps even with other loving couples, and not fear it getting out of hand or getting kicked out of the establishment?  Or worse yet, get arrested? (for local to PDX places visit: New Horizons up in seattle, Salem Dance)
  • Are either of you Bi or Bi-curious, and don't know how to go about seeking people to have that kind of experiences with?
  • Are you wanting to expand your sexuality, but not ready or wanting to jump feet first into the swingers scene, where you may feel compelled to share your mate with another person for intercourse?
  • Are you an honest and ethical couple wanting to embrace each other's sensuality, without the need for secret outside sexual interactions?
If the answer is yes to many of these questions, this web page may be something the two of you would like to read together, and discuss.
*If you are wanting to keep the boundaries described on this page,
it will be imperative to always do this together*

 

Are You Ready For Any of This?

Monogamy is still a good idea, to help minimize both emotional and health risks.  More importantly to develop a much deeper spiritual connection, taking it into a higher level where we find the love and caring of our best friend, if done right.  Some even explore such things as Tantric Sex, where intimacy is transported into the spiritual level.  Where euphoria takes on a whole new meaning. Where you live a life full of bliss and allow your self to be happy, with who and what you are, not what you hope to attain or desire to get from others. Many of you may already experience this type of connection and understand the deep need for each other between yourselves.  You might look around and wonder if other couples also have this type of connection?  Hopefully more and more are developing it.

Finding a relationship with a person you are attracted to both physically and intellectually is vital. More importantly is developing the relationship skills it takes to keep it long lasting, allowing you to  be the best of friends as well as lovers.  This is where you love talking  about any and all  subjects together, and doing nearly every activity with each other much like when you were 8 years old, and you hung out with your best friend. Sadly enough many people are not finding this in a mate, or if they originally found it they are letting it die away into the mundane.  They allow other roles to engage their time more and more and begin to put distance between themselves, first by not talking as much, then my not being physically intimate as much. The next step many of these people take is to find another relationship that has the spark they remember the passionate lust type of love.  Trouble is this relationship also needs tending, and the people who run into them often times lack the ability to foster and flourish true love and caring, thus they end that and move onto another affair that has such spark.

So first and foremost take a look at your relationship.  Do you find you are trying to hold it together as best you can?  Are you searching for ways to reawaken it?  Do you feel that sharing yourselves sexually adds the spice and naughtiness that you believe will reawaken your marriage?  If so, we would not recommend reading any further.  Instead go out with your mate and truly listen to what they have to say.  Deeply look at them and try to find that spark that originally caught you.  What lies in these pages is not a way to rekindle your marriage or save it.  Consider read Robert Sachs book 'The Passionate Budda'.

What lies in here is a way for those with  strong marriages to find companionship  and kinship with others in such marriages.  For those who delight in learning about themselves to grow further together.  What you will find in the following pages may appear highly sexually oriented, but that is only if you think on such a surface level.  What is written, is about relationships and caring first and foremost.  We hope no individual would act upon an intimate relationship without forethought to their actions.

Here are some ideas, geared towards couples who have already formed a good viable relationship, and are looking for where they could take things from there.  To keep the lines of communication open and honest.


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Monogamy As a Reality?

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Please read on or follow the links that are high-lit

Quick links to the different topics on this web page:

Our Mission Statement
Why Should We Consider Any of This?
Are You Ready for Any of This?
Monogamy As a Reality?
What is Soft-Swinging or Soft-Polyamory?
Ethics & Honesty
Working Out Your Issues
Communication, Communication, Communication
Your Boundaries and Comfort Levels
Setting the Boundaries
Emotions
Jealousy
Essential Criteria
What Are Some Advantages to This Lifestyle?

What Are Some Common Disadvantages?

What Preparation Are Needed
How to Meet People
Stamina
Bisexuality
The Fantasy of Finding that Single Bi-Female
What Kind of Couples are We Likely Encounter?
Frauds
Dealing with Full-Swingers
Behavior During an Interaction
Oral Sex
Tips for the Men  &  Tips for the Women
Having and Using Your Voice
What Brought Us to This Sort of Thinking?

Sexual Desire
Relationship Healing Solutions

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